How many times does it happen??

How many times have you had someone say don’t touch that!! Or what about something as simple as DO NOT LOOK UP! Haha did you just look up? I bet if you didn’t, you want to just because I told you not to. It doesn’t matter how old we are when given a demand rather than following suit. It’s almost like a brain game! 

Does any of this sound familiar? Of course it does! When discussing sexuality steer away from words like don’t and bad. But rather ask questions and provide choices and possible outcomes. Because it is difficult to resist the rebellious voice secretly whispering in our brain, “Don’t tell me what to do!”

Did you know?

Some alarming statistics! In a world where rap songs are teaching our children sex is nothing to cherish. You can have random sexual encounters and not have consequences? Just do it is the message being put out! I thought you might want to hear some important information:

  1. Less than ten percent of the younger than twenty five age group feels the need to save sex until they are married! That is a gigantic decrease from the over twenty five year old population where it was fifty five percent!
  2. Over forty percent of the sexually active population are not concerned about having a sexually transmitted disease. (Yet the doctors say the sexually transmitted diseases are on the rise).
  3. Well over sixty percent of the population felt like it was okay for females to have a baby with out being married. I don’t have a percentage of the girls who experience depression or seclusion, after the baby is born and they now put a multitude of fun events as a ‘young adult’ on the back burner, due to more responsibility! (I will work on finding this out.)

Many more statistics and useful information in my book Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby. Pick it up today!!!  Hey why not order a box to give them away they are inexpensive and will enhance a teenager and parent relationship.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Lets-Talk-About-Sex-Baby/dp/1533140235

 

Who are you bringing to the relationship?

When embarking on a relationship or working with a current one, you must know who you are bringing to the circle! Many times we have such high expectations of our partner, children, friends and co-workers that we are unsure why that feeling of misery creeps in and upsets our entire world. However, after a great deal of research I have learned it’s me!

What? Teena? You are crazy! My children speaking to me disrespectfully or ignoring my demands is not my fault!!!!!!!!! Nope I am going to stop reading…WAIT WAIT WAIT!!! I am not blaming you, rather allowing you to understand the universal laws.

For example I wrote in my book Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby! Who am I? and what are my expectations. In this chapter I discuss  my background of relationships and how they affected my views on love, sex, and my own expectations. Amazingly enough after exploring these topics I asked my husband, “How have we made it so long?”

He responded with, “A great deal of patience and communication on both parts!”

I mean we truly had to work through emotional feelings and thoughts through out our marriage. How I was raised vs. he was raised, what we believed the roles of both partners were ect…We had to learn who we were bringing to the relationship on all levels. This is essential when discussing human sexuality with your children. In a world of free sex and hook n up…understanding your beliefs is essential.

I have always discussed the good parts of a sexual relationship as well as the bad, with my children. The emotional attachment and how one simple act can change everything.

The universal law of like begets like will always help you out in relationships. Helps us understand why I would say if you are struggling in any relationship it could be, you need to look in the mirror! When you don’t like the way someone is acting this law says it is because you do not like that in yourself. Think about your worst insecurities…maybe your weight or the fear of gaining weight. Do you notice yourself pointing out when others gain weight on facebook? or other places?

Same law applies to your children, lover, friends or any other relationship. When you are pointing out their flaws you need to stop and think…Who am I? Who am I bringing into this relationship and how can I improve my communication skills?

While you are at it go on over to Amazon.com and purchase my book  hit the tab books and type in Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby! written by Teena Drake

You can’t miss it….beautiful orange background and hot pink writing! And it will help your communication with your child in a variety of ways! Also it doesn’t cost you five thousand dollars…just ten dollars so it won’t break the bank!!! You won’t regret it!

 

 

A word from me!

Purchase my book on Amazon.com available in paper back or Kindle! Here is a picture to help guide you to purchase! It is inexpensive and a fun way to learn more about ‘sex talks’ with your teenager!

Or e-mail me and I will send you a signed copy! Teena.drake@gmail.com

Hey while you are at it take time to write a review I would greatly appreciate it!

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A Word from the Author

Please read this book with an open mind. It is based on research as well as real life experiences. I am in no way associated with the resources discussed throughout this book. They are provided for you to have as much information as possible. I was allowed to host a Pure Initiative class one year, which opened doors for me to ask the students questions and learn a great deal from the volunteer educators who provide the class. However, one week a year should not be considered sufficient for sex education and my fear is some parents will think that is enough. This is why I felt compelled to write our story.

This book will provide you with a sneak peek into the world of middle school students. Take you back to your own experiences. Demonstrate some shocking statistics. Only to stress the importance of discussing healthy sexual relationships with your children.

I began writing this book over eight years ago. I would write a while and then stop for a multitude of reasons. I believe with all of my heart raising children is the most important job a parent or caregiver has. However, we as parents are continuously overwhelmed with topics about discipline, proper education, bullying and much more. Which pushes healthy relationships to the back burner.

All of the names and some events have been altered to protect those students who were involved. Although I have dearly loved each and every class throughout my career, this particular class will always hold a spot in my heart. They taught me how to be a better educator, allowed me to understand middle school students’ mentality and provided a story I will never forget. I will always feel honored to have taught each student.

Throughout the years I have kept track of what I call, my babies. Including the parents, grandparents and children who were born/conceived in this class. They have had many ups and downs, but continue to be the best parents they can be. It has not been an easy road for anyone involved. However, these little blessings keep their families pushing forward to improve their lives and provide a safe, happy and comfortable home for the children.

I am a mother of four, an educator, a writer and a mentor. I have experienced conversations about sexual relationships in all facets of life. It is the heartbeat of a marriage. I have mentored with adults from all ages and stages. We need to be discussing sex with our children because what we teach them today will assist them throughout their lives.

As a young student I had a class entitled “Sex Education.” It was not full of lace, positive reinforcement, balloons and yummy cake. Instead our teacher provided us with facts. She demonstrated how to put a condom on and showed us the wide variety of contraceptives. We also learned about sexually transmitted diseases and the emotional connection between partners. It is a myth that this encourages teenagers to have sex. It didn’t happen! We did laugh, giggle and snicker a bit, but we did not run out and look for opportunities to have sex.

I feel that this exposure was important and helped all of my classmates be more informed and know how to protect themselves when sexuality came into the picture. You might ask what is different in today’s society. This class does not exist. The idea is: school is for education based on college and career readiness, not personal life learning experiences, which are a fact of life. Yet the parents feel uncomfortable discussing sex and the viscous cycle continues. This verifies the importance for all parents to read my book. Provide your children with the confidence to discuss with you important topics such as their sexual thoughts, feelings and activities. After all it is a key factor to life. Just as we are born it is inevitable we will all die and the middle will involve some type of physical/sexual relationships.

Let’s Talk About Sex is short and to the point. I realize life is full of daily activities especially if you have multiple children. My hope is you find time to read it between work, doctor visits, soccer practice, dance lessons and basketball games. Be prepared to educate yourself on different ways to talk to your children, what to discuss, how to know when to listen and when you must be patient. You will also receive a different perspective about the children of today’s exposure which is one hundred times more than you or I had.